How do you want to feel when you die?
Oh yeh, I am starting with that. That question changed my life. I am assuming that you maybe landed here because you are also questioning what living a life really means to you. As far as we know we only get one go and when you engage with your mortality it offers you the opportunity to live a more intentional, joyful and fulfilling life.
Before exploring this question I was rushing through my life. Doing all the things I thought I should be doing, building & running a 6figure business, saying yes to everything, validating my existence through my unsustainable level of productivity, always too busy, responding from trauma and starting to make myself very very poorly. On the outside people thought I was successful and yes I was by societies standards but inside I was deeply lonely and my whole being was suffering. I had built a brand, identity and life around someone else’s idea of what made me valuable.
And then this question.
Throughout 2023 I have broken down, scaled back and let go of the life I thought I should have been living. I recognised that all the things that made my life meaningful were free and just needed time and space to be enjoyed. My Autism diagnosis in 2022 was also a launchpad for starting the process of unmasking, to strip back the false layers I had created to fit in and find out who I really am. It’s been a deeply challenging but rewarding transformation and everyday my life feels more and more magical.
We live in system that disembodies and disempowers us from an incredibly young age. Most of us will try to do all the things we are told to do and many of us will get to a stage where we start to ask ‘was this what I really wanted?’ quite often the answer is no.
Life isn’t a linear thing, it’s cyclical. Instead of choosing one destination or trying to fit in a box for our entire lives, we can choose to be constantly evolving, growing, expanding, resting and letting go. Choosing a slow cyclical way of living in a system that has enforced a never-ending summer is an act of revolution, it’s choosing yourself and making space for a life you actually want.
Why you might want my help…
You know there is something more but you don’t know where to look because it doesn’t exist in the stuff you were told to go after. Or maybe you know you need to make a change, a big change and you want some support and wisdom through that. Perhaps you recently discovered you are neurodivergent and now are starting the beautiful work of unmasking and creating a life that not only brings you joy but also keeps you healthy.
I work with a wind range of people on both their life and business journeys who want to live sustainable and intentional lives.
Slowing down is where you will find the meaning you are looking for.
We try to keep up with the impossible trap of capitalism because of our disconnection from ourselves and the world around us. Our environment creates imposter syndrome, loneliness, scarcity mindsets, trauma, low confidence and lack of community. It does not have to be that way. I can help you work through whats blocking you, help you reconnect with yourself and work out what you really want to put your energy into.
I am not for you if…
You believe in hustle culture.
You don’t want to make changes to how you live your daily life.
You are looking for a quick fix.
You aren’t prepared to ask yourself some uncomfortable questions and explore challenging answers.
Why on earth would you want to listen to me?
What a question to answer. I can imagine you might be asking it though, I would be.
Firstly, I am not original, nothing I share or help people with is new. I view myself as simply a guide. Someone who can help guide you back to yourself.
This is the work I am passionate about because the more connected and loving we are with ourselves, the more we all thrive and the better our world will be.
This is why I only really want to work one to one with people. Occasionally I will offer online workshops around certain collective topics and run retreats but you are an individual and will have individual needs and the biggest changes will happen in the work we can do together.
I have been teaching people for the last 4yrs, spoken on various stages and hosted many workshops and events. My intention is always to create safe and authentic spaces for anyone who wants to work with me.
I am about to start training as a trauma informed somatic counsellor, in November 2023 I will be doing my 30hrs trauma informed yoga and learning from Donna Lancaster on holding circles. From my own experience of trauma and how it has blocked me in every area of my life I believe that embodiment practises are the key to healing & thriving and I can’t wait to weave more of this into how I work with people.
On the business side I have been running businesses for over 13yrs and have a wealth of experience. I have operated at 6figures and scaled back after realising that wasn’t right for me. I believe that if you choose to be self employed then you should create a business that works for you, not something that you wind up becoming a slave to.
Some specific things we can work ON together…
GOAL SETTING & ACCOUNTABILITY / NAVIGATING NEURODIVERGENCE / BUSINESS STRATEGY / SELF CARE / BUILDING SELF AWARENESS / SELF ENQUIRY LEANING INTO CHANGE / OVERCOMING IMPOSTER SYNDROME / CYCLICAL LIVING / WORKING WITH THE SEASONS / BURNOUT RECOVERY / TAKING ACTION / MONEY BLOCKS / CREATING AN INTENTIONAL LIFE / CONFIDENCE / BEING VISIBLE / EMBODIMENT / DAILY ROUTINE / CREATING ANCHORS
the how we work together…
I offer a range of different packages, my preference will always in person but I know that online makes me more accessible for more people. Once you have decided which of the below is the best fit for you then click the contact button where you can fill out a short form. Once you are booked in (£150 booking fee) then I will send a more extensive questionnaire ahead of our session.
1hr online zoom session £150.00 / perfect for some quick guidance or if you just need someone to hold space for you and your ideas.
Block of five 1hr sessions (must be taken within 2 months) £650.00 / perfect for those of you who need more accountability to take action. Includes WhatsApp support.
5hr in person day in Folkestone, Kent £650.00 / my favourite, we can build the day around you and your needs, have lunch together and include some movement like a walk to help get things moving. Includes one month WhatsApp support for accountability. Can add a follow up 1hr zoom call for £100.00 If you wish to do the 5hr day somewhere else then I am happy to travel but will charge for travel costs.